Get them to create your profile and then pair you up with potential suitors they think would be your ideal match. Non-specialist sites There's no need to avoid the more mainstream dating sites , as many attract a diverse range of ages. Use recommendations from friends and family - someone you know is bound to be familiar with dating websites. As with any company offering a popular service, it pays to do your research. Some sites may charge a fee; others may only be partially free.
Bear in mind that with many sites it's not always immediately obvious which elements are completely without cost. It's worth finding this out before you create your profile, as the last thing you want is to be unable to respond to a message from the future love of your life. Another point to remember is that safety first is not just a mantra for kids. Always make sure that someone knows when you're going on a date, be wary of online imposters, never respond to calls for money or financial details, and only hand over personal details, such as your phone number and email address, if you feel comfortable and ready.
Holiday clubs Why should the s have all the fun? Whether it's camping in Cumbria or cruising the Caribbean, there's a singles holiday to suit you. Specialist holiday firms cater for almost every demographic, and solo trips for the older generation has become a very lucrative business. This is good news for the savvy consumer, as there's more choice than ever before. Saga holidays Offers a wide variety of activities, from skiing to sightseeing, in some of the most romantic and exotic locations in the world.
Just You Specialises in singles holidays and caters to a diverse age group. It has a supportive online community and allows you the option of pre-travel meet-ups, so you can get to know some of your fellow travellers beforehand. British Tours Offers a huge variety of excursions and guided tours to every corner of the UK. Social networking Forums and discussion boards are a good way to dip your toe in the sea of socialising before you decide to take the full plunge. Age Concern A friendly and responsive set of regular users make the community section of the site a welcoming place.
Finer Day A Facebook-style site for the more mature user. It's simple and straightforward to use, and has a sense of fun. Volunteering After you retire it can be difficult to replace the camaraderie that you had with your work colleagues. Volunteering is a great way to forge new relationships with like-minded people, and has the added benefit of knowing you're contributing to a worthwhile cause. Charity shops are often crying out for help and could be just the ticket if you're looking to meet people in a relaxed environment.
If you prefer the great outdoors, then why not get involved in a conservation project? There are plenty of options on the National Trust website. For an overview of exactly what volunteering options are out there or personalised advice on what would suit you the best, try the Volunteering website. It publishes a large database of activities people can get involved in. Don't limit your options.
Be judicious about how you answer questions about what you're looking for in a partner. Some sites ask about your "deal breakers," that is things you absolutely don't want. If you make your list of do's and don'ts too long, it will limit the possibilities. So only put seriously disqualifying or absolutely necessary things in that list. For example, ditch the requirement that he has at least a master's degree but keep the one that says he can't be a smoker.
When you find someone you are interested in — or someone finds you — exercise caution. At least initially, talk on your mobile phone instead of your home phone, which can be linked to your address. For a first date, meet in a safe public place — a coffee shop is ideal. Until you know the person better and are confident he is who he claims to be, don't let a date drive you anywhere or even walk you to your car if it's a secluded place.
Though most people are honest and well-meaning, you shouldn't take any risks at all. One of the advantages to online dating — meeting people you never would have met otherwise — is also a disadvantage. Since the people you meet are coming from outside your network, you don't know people who can vouch for them.
So you need to be super cautious. Some online daters are only out for a good time, while others the majority, I believe are looking for a serious relationship. It may take a while to meet Mr. Some people are lucky right off the bat: They meet that perfect someone quickly, the feelings are mutual, and the relationship gets serious. Many more people, though, don't have that kind of luck: They meet many people who don't interest them or who don't show any interest.
It can take many, many coffee shop dates before you find someone who is right for you. Still, it's worth it. If you think of these dates as an opportunity to expand your social life , you will find that you can enjoy the coffee — even if the person has no long-term prospects. But if you stick it out and keep trying, you eventually find that very special someone. Join the Discussion Please leave your comment below. You must be logged in to leave a comment.